How to Enjoy the Journey of Life as a Single Woman in The 30s

Want to know how to enjoy the journey of life after being single in your 30s? This article will give you 9 ideas on how to make you enjoy your 30s. All these ideas are taken from my personal experience. If it helps me rebuild my life, it should be beneficial for you too.

Getting a breakup in your 30s is suck. Most of your friends have started to settle down, get married, and have kids, and here you are feeling left behind by being single. Sometimes, it can make you feel so lost and lonely. And it’s okay if you find yourself crying at night.

Fortunately, there’s no shame in being single. No matter your age, ending a relationship that no longer serves you is a sign of self-respect. Trust me, no one has it all figured out—we all struggle in our own way.

In this article, you are going to learn about what does enjoy the journey mean, how to enjoy the journey, how to live in the moment, understanding life is about the journey, not the destination, and more.

After learning about the meaning of life is a journey enjoy the ride, you are going to enjoy your singleness and know that things will only get better after this.

This post is all about how to enjoy the journey of life that every single woman in her 30s should know about.

1. Embrace Your Freedom

Being single in your 30s can be the best time in your life. You’re still healthy, already have some money from working for a while, and have some experience to guide you in making the best decision for your life.

It all begins with your mindset: accept your singleness as it is.

Stop hoping you’re in your early 20s, complain everything is too late, and compare your story with others who already have things that you want (get married, have kids, or build 7 figure business).

Focus on your journey. Enjoy every minute of it because you get to call all the shots.

You can do whatever you want, no compromise. You can choose your traveling destination, where to live, what to eat for dinner, and all you need to do is carry a backpack for weekend adventures!

Is a road trip or a last-minute flight to somewhere sunny better? Guess what—you can do both now!

2. Love Yourself First

In a relationship, we often try so hard to make it work—holding our tongue, dimming our light, and saying yes to everything, hoping it’ll lead to love and happiness. But without realizing it, you end up putting yourself on the back burner.

Now that you’re single, it’s time to make yourself your top priority.

What do you need right now? Time to rest, a little pampering, or maybe just a quiet moment with your favorite book before bed? Whatever it is, give it to yourself without guilt.

Loving yourself isn’t selfish, nor does it mean you don’t care about others. It’s about filling your own cup first—because you can’t be a good friend or care for your family if you’re not taking care of yourself.

Thankfully, loving yourself isn’t hard. It starts with small daily habits. When you wake up, look in the mirror, smile, and say, “Good morning.” Be grateful for the gift of a new day.

Learn to enjoy small moments in life like sipping coffee on your balcony, binge-watching your favorite show, or the warmth of the sun in your face.

These little acts teach you to choose happiness every single time without depending on anyone else.

Lastly, loving yourself isn’t just about having fun—it’s also about taking responsibility. Sometimes self-care means doing things you don’t love but need, like reading to grow your mind, hitting the gym to stay strong, choosing a salad over a greasy burger, or prioritizing sleep over a night out.

3. Decide What You Want in Life

Enjoying the journey of life as a single woman doesn’t mean you live your life aimlessly. On the contrary, to enjoy your singleness, you must have something in mind to make you excited to wake up.

The best way to do that is by creating a vision board on what kind of life you want to live. 

When creating a vision board, be as detailed as possible. Include the type of career you want, how much money you’d like in your bank account, the kind of house you want to buy, whether you want to get married, and how many children you’d like to have.

That’s not all. Also, incorporate the feelings you want to experience in your dream life. Add words that speak to your heart to give your vision board soul.

Place your vision board somewhere you’ll see it every day. It will remind you of your goals, and whenever you’re unsure about what to do, just refer back to it for guidance.

You receive a job offer and wonder whether to take it or pass. Ask yourself—does this job bring you closer to what you’ve envisioned on your vision board?

Every payday, check your financial goals to see if you’re on track.

Feeling bloated lately? Maybe it’s time to try a new workout if you’re getting bored with your current routine.

Having a vision board means every step you take brings you closer to your dream life. Before you know it, some of the images will start to manifest. When that happens, it’s time to update your vision board.

This creates a positive cycle that helps you enjoy your journey as a single woman.

4. Make a Plan to Bring Your Vision Board to Life

Having a vision board is just the start; now it’s time to turn those dreams into reality.

Your vision board will do nothing if you don’t work toward it.

Your first step is always to break down your big goal into actionable steps. Let’s use real-life examples.

Let’s say, you want to go on holiday in the Bahamas. You’ve already done your research and turns out it’s gonna cost you $5,000 per person for that trip to your dream resort. Now, it’s time to make a plan for how you’re gonna find the money.

Do you plan to cut your expenses and save more for the trip?

If you set aside $100/paycheck, you’ll need 50 paychecks to hit the $5,000 goal. If your paycheck is bi-weekly, you might need a year to reach your goal.

Some people don’t love the idea of cutting back expenses, they prefer to work harder. Maybe working more hours or finding a side hustle will be a better plan.

So as you can see, using a vision board to keep your eyes on your goal and make it come true isn’t a woo-woo thing. This is a scientific way to upgrade your life as a single.

When you have a specific plan for each goal on your vision board, you don’t have time to cry over a man who chose to leave you. Your new life is waiting for you in the near future!

5. Strengthen and Expand Your Friendship Circle

Okay, maybe this sounds a bit confusing at first, but hear me out.

One of the most difficult steps to create a new life is creating a new circle. If you stay with your current circle, your life will stay the same.

That’s why you need to remove people who don’t align with your goals. Let’s say you want to save for the down payment on your dream house, but if your circle is all about YOLO and all-nighters, your dream house will remain just that – a dream.

Removing people from your life doesn’t mean you say rude things to them. All you need to do is spend less time with them. Be upfront about what you’re working on and if your friends really care about you, they want the best for you.

If they hate you for having a goal, that’s a sign they are not your people anymore. Wish them the best and let go of them.

After doing this, you have the space and energy to expand your circle with new people. You must choose people who align with your values and bring positive energy into your life.

By surrounding yourself with the right type of people, your efforts to make your vision board come true will become easier.

But let’s be real, making new friends as an adult isn’t easy. If you haven’t found the right circle yet, don’t go back to your old one. Learn to enjoy your own company and wait for life to unfold new opportunities to meet people.

6. Invest in Your Growth

When you’re working on your goal, you not only need a new circle but you also need new skills. So you must have a plan to learn new skills or areas you want to grow in. 

Learning new things these days isn’t rocket science.

Books are everywhere, Kindle Unlimited is just $10 a month, and resources like YouTube and Google are completely free. Plus, platforms like Skillshare offer online courses on just about anything you can imagine.

You just need to make time for your learning. The easiest way is to make learning part of your routine. You can start reading books for 10 minutes before sleep and after a month you’ll finish one book. That’s 12 books a year without even trying that hard.

Or block one hour every weekend to dive into an online course you’re interested in. You’ll get ideas for hitting your goal faster by stacking new skills.

On the flip side, you can also learn new things as a new hobby. This is good for your soul and refreshes your life.

7. Track Your Progress

You can’t improve what you don’t measure. That’s why tracking your progress is necessary to see how long it has been.

The simplest way to see your progress is by comparing you with you from 6 months ago or last year. Did you notice something different? If you’ve been consistently working on your goal, it shouldn’t be difficult to pinpoint your progress.

Sometimes, you need to laser-focus to see how close you are to your goal. This is where your breakdown comes in handy. How many steps have you completed from your bite-sized plan?

If you’re building an emergency fund, how much do you currently have in your bank account?

If you’re focusing on your health this year, have you learned to cook? How many recipes have you tried? Did you explore new workouts or stick to your favorite gym routine? Have you noticed a leaner waistline or finally fit back into your old jeans?

Don’t forget to celebrate your progress—big or small. It will keep you motivated and excited about what’s next.

And if things don’t go as planned, don’t worry—that’s all part of the journey. Reflect on what feels off, adjust your plans, and try a new approach. Enjoy the journey of working on your new life.

When you finally reach your goal, it’s the ups and downs that will make it truly memorable.

8. Stay Open to New Experiences (Love or Just Fun!)

Your mind is the most powerful medicine for your broken heart. By keeping a positive outlook toward life, you can enjoy the journey of life as a single woman in her 30s. Open yourself to new experiences whether it’s trying new dating apps, hanging out in the new clubs, or picking up a new hobby.

If you’re someone who sticks to your habits (we love something familiar), challenge yourself to try something different: a new restaurant, a staycation in a new city, taking a different route when you’re heading home, etc.

Those new experiences will open you to different people. You never know where those new experiences will lead you.

Of course, you must pay attention to your safety too. I don’t recommend you to be reckless. If you try a new route, make sure you’re not in the middle of the night. When you try a new restaurant, read the online reviews to see what most people say about it.

9. Give Back to Your Community

Giving back is one of the best ways to feel grateful for your life and start attracting miracles.

People often think that helping others means losing something, but the truth is, you gain so much more. You’ll feel a sense of purpose, reduce stress, and become someone others enjoy being around.

You don’t need to wait until you’re rich to give back to your society. A simple thank you to your barista or holding doors for people behind you can have the same effect as giving thousands of dollars to charity.

Start practicing kindness today to train your empathy, leading to a happy life.

Enjoy the Journey: Be the Star of Your Adventure

So, how can you enjoy the journey of life as a single woman in your 30s?

It’s not that hard, right?

These 9 ideas in this article should set you up for an amazing 30s. It will transform you into a better person and have a better life. When the time you date someone new, you’ll have a new standard that hopefully will lead to a better relationship.

Take your first step and enjoy your adventure!